{"id":1207,"date":"2010-02-11T23:26:52","date_gmt":"2010-02-12T03:26:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1207"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:53","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:53","slug":"do-you-keep-happiness-in-place","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2010\/02\/do-you-keep-happiness-in-place\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Keep Happiness &quot;In Place?&quot;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Six weeks ago our youngest son bought us a new chandelier &#8212; something that goes better with our remodeled great room.\u00a0 When we took down the old chandelier, however, we decided it was still in superb condition.<br \/>\nSo we polished it up, and hung it&#8230; in the master bedroom.<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1217 alignright\" title=\"dscf6377\" src=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2010\/02\/dscf6377-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"dscf6377\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" \/><br \/>\nAnd ever since then, we&#8217;ve been getting the strangest reactions from people who have seen our room or heard that we hung a chandelier in such a place.<br \/>\nVery odd looks.\u00a0 Statements like, &#8220;you did What?!&#8221;<br \/>\nYes, we did something very unconventional with lighting.\u00a0 And now we LOVE how much softer and fuller the lighting is in our bedroom.<br \/>\nBut this experience has me thinking about how often I see people segment their life and put things in different places based on &#8220;how things are supposed to be.&#8221;\u00a0 They hold a story that &#8216;this belongs here&#8217; and &#8216;that belongs ONLY there.&#8217;\u00a0 For example:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Chandeliers should only be hung in a dining room or kitchen.<\/li>\n<li>White should not be worn after Labor Day (that was one of my mom&#8217;s rules)<\/li>\n<li>I&#8217;m not allowed to get angry on the job<\/li>\n<li>Real men don&#8217;t cry (or wear pink)<\/li>\n<li>Happiness is only for weekends<\/li>\n<li>There&#8217;s no place for joy in the workplace<\/li>\n<li>Less desirable emotions (like fear, sadness, anxiety) must be stuffed down<\/li>\n<li>We can only use Grandma&#8217;s china for special family occasions<\/li>\n<li>Talking about death or aging will cause those things, so they can&#8217;t ever be discussed<\/li>\n<li>Happiness is not important enough to take up space on meeting agendas<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When you look at that list you might think, &#8216;I don&#8217;t hold any of those beliefs!&#8217;\u00a0 Perhaps true, but everybody has their stories about what&#8217;s proper and what&#8217;s not, and what can be talked about &amp; where.<br \/>\nI&#8217;m not saying any of those &#8216;stories&#8217; are right or wrong or good or bad&#8230; just that they are stories.\u00a0 Recognize you made them up; and you can make new stories when the old ones no longer work.<br \/>\nMy wife and I challenged the story about chandeliers, and made a new one that worked better for us.\u00a0 I wear pink after years of thinking it was &#8216;not right.&#8217;\u00a0 and of course I believe that there is absolutely a place for happiness at work!<br \/>\nWhat stories do YOU hold about What goes Where?\u00a0 And which stories do you want to rewrite?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Six weeks ago our youngest son bought us a new chandelier &#8212; something that goes better with our remodeled great room.\u00a0 When we took down the old chandelier, however, we decided it was still in superb condition. 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