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Any emotion that you WANT to experience more can become more natural if you play the role, <\/strong>or practice it, more often.\u00a0 Let’s look at assertiveness.
\nIn assertiveness, you are able to stand up for yourself or your position from a place of confidence. <\/strong>When you practice assertiveness, you are more likely to get your own needs met and your questions answered without anyone else ‘losing.”
\nFor example, do you ever find yourself in a situation where someone asks, \u201cAre there any questions?\u201d and no one speaks? <\/strong>But you have a ton of questions?\u00a0 Guess what \u2013 it\u2019s very likely that others have concerns or questions similar to yours, but no one wants to be the one to extend the meeting or admit they aren\u2019t completely clear.\u00a0 99% of the time when someone asks a good question, other people in the room feel relieved because THEY are confused about the same issue, but could not find the courage to raise their hands.\u00a0 When you do, you will be seen as a little bolder, a little more confident\u2026 and you\u2019ll often affect how things roll out.
\nOr how about when a manager says, \u201cwe need a couple people for this task force?\u201d\u00a0 Do you think, \u201cIt will be a waste of time.\u00a0 I don\u2019t have the energy,\u201d or do you raise your hand to get involved?\u00a0 When you say Yes to small opportunities, <\/strong>there is risk, e.g. you can mess up, fail, get blamed for what\u2019s not working, and have extra stress in your life.\u00a0 On the other hand, there is an upside:\u00a0 you’ve also just put yourself in a situation where you can influence the final decision, learn something new or learn it before others do, make new contacts outside your primary job, and get experience being a spokesperson — all benefits of being assertive!
\nYou can\u2019t win if you don\u2019t play.<\/strong>
\nThe Ohio Lottery for years has used a marketing tagline that says, \u201cYou can\u2019t win if you don\u2019t play.\u201d\u00a0 So get in the game.\u00a0 Start small. <\/strong>Speak up in situations within your team before you stand up in front at the next all-company meeting.\u00a0 Or maybe volunteer for a short-term project team to get your feet wet before you try to get on that six-month task force.\u00a0 Practice, practice, practice pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in tiny ways, even at home or in your community.
\nAnd then notice how much stronger your assertiveness muscles become. <\/strong>Notice how others start to look to you to be their \u201cvoice\u201d in confusing situations.\u00a0 See how your willingness to take little risks can help you be more comfortable taking big ones.\u00a0 And finally, notice how those are all leadership behaviors, that will help you in all areas of your life.
\nRemember: Leadership is not about a title<\/strong>.\u00a0 Anyone can be a leader who practices even a bit of risk-taking and uses their personal capital to help improve the culture or conditions in the workplace.\u00a0 And the more you stretch your assertiveness muscles, the more you grow.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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