{"id":1527,"date":"2010-09-29T15:22:34","date_gmt":"2010-09-29T19:22:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1527"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:51","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:51","slug":"if-youre-not-uncomfortable-youre-not-leading","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2010\/09\/if-youre-not-uncomfortable-youre-not-leading\/","title":{"rendered":"If you're not uncomfortable, you're not leading"},"content":{"rendered":"
People don\u2019t like to be uncomfortable. <\/strong>I cannot recall the last time I had a conversation a leader where the subject of \u201cdifficult conversations\u201d about performance did not come up as one of their most feared situations.\u00a0 Second to that is concern about telling people that \u201cchange is coming.\u201d\u00a0 Meanwhile, we face the reality that forward progress inevitably requires change, and change itself is uncomfortable.\u00a0 What\u2019s a leader to do? Remember: Leadership is not about a title<\/strong>.\u00a0 Anyone can be a leader who can step into the discomfort of a difficult conversation, knowing that on the other side of that discomfort lays greater potential for progress, accomplishment, and a more positive workplace experience.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" People don\u2019t like to be uncomfortable. I cannot recall the last time I had a conversation a leader where the subject of \u201cdifficult conversations\u201d about performance did not come up as one of their most feared situations.\u00a0 Second to that is concern about telling people that \u201cchange is coming.\u201d\u00a0 Meanwhile, we face the reality that … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,58,11],"tags":[191,152,222,321],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIf you want to be effective as a leader, you\u2019ve got to get over yourself.<\/strong> While you may prefer to spend all your time in a happy, comfortable world where everyone does their job well and processes always work, that is, in the end, a fantasy world in which your role is unnecessary.\u00a0 The raison d’\u00eatre<\/em> \u2013 the core justification \u2013 for your job is to solve problems, to declare new futures, to reallocate resources, and to name the elephants in the room.
\nIn other words, your role by definition requires that you create discomfort, both for you and for others.<\/strong> I\u2019m not advocating for \u201ccontrol freaks\u201d or for those with anger issues to run amok in the workplace, because those behaviors create a dysfunctional form of discomfort.\u00a0 I\u2019m simply reminding you that you must, in today\u2019s fast-moving world, continually stir the pot of change, and regularly challenge your team members to step up their game \u2013 and hold people accountable for delivering on their commitments.
\nIn order to create discomfort, you must regularly practice that emotional state; you must become friends with unease, concern, nervousness, and even trepidation. <\/strong>When you become intentionally familiar with those emotions in small doses, you will gradually strengthen your ability to manage them.\u00a0 You will find yourself more capable of holding difficult conversations because you\u2019ll be confident in your ability to \u201clive through the experience.\u201d<\/p>\nHow do you \u201cpractice\u201d feeling comfortable with discomfort?<\/h2>\n
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