{"id":1631,"date":"2010-12-29T18:13:07","date_gmt":"2010-12-29T22:13:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1631"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:50","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:50","slug":"second-be-the-real-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2010\/12\/second-be-the-real-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Second, Be the Real You"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"color: #800080\"><strong><strong>Gifts for the New Year: Be the Real You<\/strong><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Notice all the places in your life where you feel distracted and stressed by how you\u2019re behaving. <\/strong>Happiness Principle #13, Be Authentic, reminds that when you stop trying to \u201cplay a role\u201d to fit what you think other people expect of you, you give yourself the space to truly shine based on your real gifts and strengths.<br \/>\n<strong>One of my executive clients began a new job in the middle of 2010, but then spent much of the third quarter trying to figure out \u201cwhat the heck happened\u201d to the happy, joyful person she used to be. <\/strong>She went on holiday the week of Thanksgiving and, after relaxing with friends and family, she started to recover herself.\u00a0 And then the best part happened.<br \/>\n<strong>She spent a week+ in Sierra Leone on the horn of Africa, coordinating an enormous charity initiative for her organization. <\/strong>She lived in primitive surroundings, sleeping in 100F degree heat and 99% humidity.\u00a0 She had facilities to put on her \u201cusual mask\u201d so she spent her days sans makeup, hair curling in the humidity, and on some days without even a shower.<br \/>\nAnd when she called me just hours after arriving home, <strong>she described herself as \u201cHappier than I can remember feeling in a long time.\u201d <\/strong>The ten days of \u201cdeprivation\u201d had helped her get back in touch with that happy, joyful person she really is behind the \u201cserious senior executive role\u201d she\u2019s been trying to play.<br \/>\nSo as you continue to prepare for a great 2011, here is today&#8217;s reminder: <strong>Don&#8217;t waste any more time trying to be something or someone that you&#8217;re not. <\/strong>Every bit of energy you direct toward diminishing who you REALLY are is energy wasted. \u00a0Instead, seek ways to bring your strengths and your talents to work and remember that they hired you to play the part of&#8230;.YOU! \u00a0Unless you&#8217;re an actor hired to play a role, don&#8217;t even try. \u00a0Just be the Real You.<br \/>\n<strong>Show up, make mistakes, and be glorious! <\/strong><br \/>\nNext week:\u00a0 Practice Optimism<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gifts for the New Year: Be the Real You Notice all the places in your life where you feel distracted and stressed by how you\u2019re behaving. 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