{"id":1700,"date":"2011-02-23T06:31:20","date_gmt":"2011-02-23T10:31:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1700"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:49","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:49","slug":"spit-out-the-poison-of-resentment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2011\/02\/spit-out-the-poison-of-resentment\/","title":{"rendered":"Spit out the poison of Resentment"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today, I received a note from a friend who, several years ago, suffered terribly because of the actions and incompetence of another person.\u00a0 He said, “I could never forgive him,” <\/strong>but his wife is encouraging him to let it go and move on.
\nThat’s what forgiveness is really about — moving on.\u00a0 When you hold onto a past wrong and spend time in resentment, it keeps you anchored to the past suffering, re-living it in your mind over and over. <\/strong>It prevents or waters down your happiness, because it is always simmering.
\nForgiveness is NOT about forgetting. You cannot forget, it happened, that other person did what they did.\u00a0 But forgiveness is not about the other person — it is about YOU.\u00a0 When you carry resentment about a past event, it is like taking the poison and hoping the other person dies. <\/strong>Resentment eats away at YOU, and has no impact on the other person.
\nThe gift of Forgiveness is that it allows you to let go of the resentment and the hold that it has on you. \u00a0 It is about saying something like, “It happened, it is past. I let go of the hold <that event> has on me — I declare that from this day forward, it will no longer weigh on me or cloud my experience of life. I declare myself free of it and of them.”
\n<\/strong><\/em>
\nSpit out the poison of resentment — and take the antidote of forgiveness. <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Today, I received a note from a friend who, several years ago, suffered terribly because of the actions and incompetence of another person.\u00a0 He said, “I could never forgive him,” but his wife is encouraging him to let it go and move on. 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