{"id":1788,"date":"2011-04-25T06:59:16","date_gmt":"2011-04-25T10:59:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1788"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:49","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:49","slug":"dont-be-a-workplace-crab","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2011\/04\/dont-be-a-workplace-crab\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#039;t be a Workplace Crab!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For part 1 of this post, see: <a href=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2011\/04\/dont-let-the-crabs-pull-you-down\/\" target=\"_self\">Don&#8217;t Let the Crabs Pull You Down!<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2011\/04\/2007.OIB-People_061-2.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1781 alignleft\" title=\"2007.OIB People_061 (2)\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2011\/04\/2007.OIB-People_061-2-300x273.jpg\" width=\"126\" height=\"115\" \/><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Crabs in the workplace are sometimes harder to avoid than personal connections. <\/strong>At home, you can ignore the phone, or say No to invitations.\u00a0 But at work, they sit right next to you, or you have to work with them every day!\u00a0 No matter the place, crabs will always seek to pull you down to the bottom of the bucket where they live.\u00a0 Beware!<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #9400d3\"><strong>Who are the workplace crabs?\u00a0 Here are some ways to spot them in the wild:<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>They often call themselves \u201crealists<span style=\"color: #0000ff\">**<\/span>\u201d<\/strong> but then spend all their time whining about\u2026 well, much of everything.<\/li>\n<li>They are often <strong>unwilling or unable to do the work required<\/strong> to get to the next level, but will blame others at every turn for denying them the opportunity.<\/li>\n<li><strong>They don\u2019t like to see others succeed<\/strong>, and will often create or support gossip that implies success was unearned.<\/li>\n<li><strong>They often mock those who take risks<\/strong>, creating discomfort for those who stretch and take on extra assignments or apply for promotional opportunities.<\/li>\n<li><strong>They studiously avoid change<\/strong>, even when that change will benefit them.<br \/> And please know that I acknowledge change can be very uncomfortable.\u00a0 However, it\u2019s one thing to avoid it yourself \u2013 that\u2019s your own issue.\u00a0 Crabs are those who try to guilt others into joining them in non-compliance or resistance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff\"><strong>** <\/strong>Note: I make a distinction between <strong>Optimists<\/strong> (those who look for the good and *usually* expect things to go well), and <strong>Pessimists<\/strong> (those who look for the worst and *usually* expect things to go wrong).\u00a0 <strong>Realists<\/strong>, as far as I\u2019m concerned, will hold a balanced point of view, for in reality some things go well and some things don\u2019t.\u00a0 <strong>When someone <em>says<\/em> they\u2019re a Realist but then <em>acts<\/em> like a Pessimist, then I say: <em>\u201cIf it quacks like a duck\u2026.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>An effective leader does not behave like a crab, at any time and in any venue. <\/strong>Moreover, most good leaders have little tolerance for crabs, as they have a toxic effect on the workplace team.\u00a0 Still, crabs exist, for they often do their work under the sand, where they are not visible but they still undermine morale in the workplace.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #9400d3\">ACTION ITEM: <\/span>Pay attention to your language: <\/strong>How do you speak in the workplace?\u00a0 Do you blame others for your troubles?\u00a0 Do you refuse to try anything new?\u00a0 Do you mock people who are willing to step up and try something new, or take on a new challenge?\u00a0 Be careful\u2026 you may be a crab!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Remember, Leadership is not about a title: <\/strong>Anyone can be a leader who seeks to lift others up, not drag them down!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An effective leader does not behave like a crab, at any time and in any venue. 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