{"id":1799,"date":"2011-05-03T06:11:35","date_gmt":"2011-05-03T10:11:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=1799"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:49","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:49","slug":"do-we-know-what-we-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2011\/05\/do-we-know-what-we-want\/","title":{"rendered":"Do We Know What We Want?"},"content":{"rendered":"

This blog post is courtesy my Marketing Coach, Robert Middleton<\/a> — and he, in turn, takes part of it from\u00a0 Lawrence J. Peter’s book, “The Peter Pyramid.”<\/strong>
\n“We are a strange people. We spend our lives doing things we detest, to make money for things we don’t need, to impress people we don’t like. We never want to be doing what we’re doing. When we eat, we read; when we watch TV, we eat; when we drive, we listen to music; when we listen to music, we work around the house. When we want to be with friends, we go to a noisy restaurant; when we want to party, we spend the evening trying to converse.”<\/span>
\n <\/span>
\nThis was written back in 1986 and since then, things have only gotten worse.<\/strong> When we’re on the phone, we’re checking our email; when we watch TV we surf the web; when we’re on the web, we watch Youtube. And when we do practically anything else we’re on our cell phones.
\nIt’s no wonder people are so stressed and overwhelmed.<\/strong> Do we even know what it means to do one thing at a time with full attention? But if we don’t have attention, we are missing life. Attention is life.
\nJim’s addendum<\/span><\/strong>
\nWe really can’t blame technology for our inability\/unwillingness to focus. <\/strong>Multi-tasking existed before computers.
\nThe inability to manage stress is one of the top 4 biggest contributors to chronic illness <\/strong>(three of the top ten most-prescribed drugs are anti-depressants!).\u00a0 Stress is self-made, and one of the common stories we make up to fuel our stress is that we MUST pay attention to multiple, simultaneous things and that we must get EVERYTHING done.
\nGiving just ONE thing our full attention is called Mindfulness.\u00a0 When we are mindful, we slow down.<\/strong> We become more present to the one thing, the one task, or the one person in front of us.\u00a0 Mindfulness slows down our brain & our body, and creates a space for us to calm down and breath easier.
\nBut to experience mindfulness, we must first give ourselves permission<\/strong> to Stop.\u00a0 Slow Down.\u00a0 Focus on Just One Thing.
\nWe say we can’t.\u00a0 So I repeat Robert’s question: Do we really know what we want? <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Technology isn’t the cause of our inability to focus — we are! 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