{"id":2337,"date":"2008-08-19T13:58:53","date_gmt":"2008-08-19T17:58:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifewithhappiness.com\/?p=81"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:37:00","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:37:00","slug":"sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy"},"content":{"rendered":"

In my year-long quest to see all of the movies nominated for Oscars from last year, I finally picked up Away From Her<\/a>, with Julie Christie in an absolutely brilliant performance as a woman literally melting away from her life as the linkages in her brain come apart — while her husband, Grant, struggles with the fact that the woman he loves so deeply… no longer remembers him.
\nTrailer for Away From Her on YouTube<\/a>
\nWhen Grant can no longer handle it by himself, he reaches out to the wife of another Alzheimer’s patient, seeking desperately to ‘fix’ what is happening.\u00a0 While Grant is alternately sad and angry, Marian (played by the always-fabulous Olympia Dukakis) has a different perspective.\u00a0 During one scene she and Grant get philosophical.
\nMarian: “I’m thinking that sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy.\u00a0 Just decide.\u00a0 Things aren’t ever what you hoped they be; not ever; for anybody.\u00a0 The only thing that separates one kind of person from another is that there are some who stay angry about it and there are some who accept what comes their way.”
\nGrant: “what kind of person are you?”
\nMarian: “I was pretty mad about it.\u00a0 But now — looking at what came my way — I could be the other kind of person!”
\nAnd that’s what I’m often talking about — choosing to be that other kind of person.\u00a0 There’s nothing wrong with anger.\u00a0 Anger and frustration and sadness are all very real and should be honored and felt deeply.\u00a0 If we remain too long in those emotions, however, they eventually start to eat away at us and prevent us from noticing that good stuff still occurs in our life.
\nSo, at some point, you just have to decide, “I’m going to give myself permission to experience happiness.\u00a0 Right now.”
\nYou say that’s not who you are?\u00a0 That you’ve always been the angry one?\u00a0 Well, Olympia Dukakis has another great line in the movie: “It’s never too late to become who you might have been.”
\nYou can start today.\u00a0 Just decide.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In my year-long quest to see all of the movies nominated for Oscars from last year, I finally picked up Away From Her, with Julie Christie in an absolutely brilliant performance as a woman literally melting away from her life as the linkages in her brain come apart — while her husband, Grant, struggles with … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34],"tags":[44,45],"yoast_head":"\nSometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"In my year-long quest to see all of the movies nominated for Oscars from last year, I finally picked up Away From Her, with Julie Christie in an absolutely brilliant performance as a woman literally melting away from her life as the linkages in her brain come apart — while her husband, Grant, struggles with ... Read more\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/facebook.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"800\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"212\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Jim Smith\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@JimSmithOnline\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@JimSmithOnline\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Jim Smith\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Jim Smith\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/5e03b070ca3a1220ca3f43ce292f66e9\"},\"headline\":\"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy\",\"datePublished\":\"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\"},\"wordCount\":358,\"commentCount\":1,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization\"},\"keywords\":[\"Decide to be happy\",\"What kind of person are you?\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Happiness\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\",\"name\":\"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/\",\"name\":\"The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae\",\"description\":\"Happiness is a decision, not an event!\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization\",\"name\":\"The Executive Happiness Coach\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png\",\"width\":800,\"height\":212,\"caption\":\"The Executive Happiness Coach\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/facebook.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach\",\"https:\/\/x.com\/JimSmithOnline\",\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach\/\",\"https:\/\/linkedin.com\/in\/theexecutivehappinesscoach\",\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/ideator13\"]},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/5e03b070ca3a1220ca3f43ce292f66e9\",\"name\":\"Jim Smith\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/38ad44a151d1e6417596ae1a511e175b?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/38ad44a151d1e6417596ae1a511e175b?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Jim Smith\"}}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae","og_description":"In my year-long quest to see all of the movies nominated for Oscars from last year, I finally picked up Away From Her, with Julie Christie in an absolutely brilliant performance as a woman literally melting away from her life as the linkages in her brain come apart — while her husband, Grant, struggles with ... Read more","og_url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/","og_site_name":"The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae","article_publisher":"https:\/\/facebook.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach","article_published_time":"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00","article_modified_time":"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00","og_image":[{"width":800,"height":212,"url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png","type":"image\/png"}],"author":"Jim Smith","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@JimSmithOnline","twitter_site":"@JimSmithOnline","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Jim Smith","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/"},"author":{"name":"Jim Smith","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/5e03b070ca3a1220ca3f43ce292f66e9"},"headline":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy","datePublished":"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00","dateModified":"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/"},"wordCount":358,"commentCount":1,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization"},"keywords":["Decide to be happy","What kind of person are you?"],"articleSection":["Happiness"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/","url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/","name":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy - The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#website"},"datePublished":"2008-08-19T17:58:53+00:00","dateModified":"2018-10-02T17:37:00+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2008\/08\/sometimes-you-just-have-to-make-the-decision-to-be-happy\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#website","url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/","name":"The Executive Happiness Coach\u00ae","description":"Happiness is a decision, not an event!","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#organization","name":"The Executive Happiness Coach","url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/files\/2018\/05\/tehc-banner-logo-800w.png","width":800,"height":212,"caption":"The Executive Happiness Coach"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/facebook.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach","https:\/\/x.com\/JimSmithOnline","https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/theexecutivehappinesscoach\/","https:\/\/linkedin.com\/in\/theexecutivehappinesscoach","https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/ideator13"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/5e03b070ca3a1220ca3f43ce292f66e9","name":"Jim Smith","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/38ad44a151d1e6417596ae1a511e175b?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/38ad44a151d1e6417596ae1a511e175b?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Jim Smith"}}]}},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2337"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5789"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2337"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2337\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5161,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2337\/revisions\/5161"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}