{"id":2922,"date":"2014-01-15T10:47:26","date_gmt":"2014-01-15T10:47:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=2922"},"modified":"2018-10-02T15:26:25","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T19:26:25","slug":"19-ways-you-sabotage-your-resolutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2014\/01\/19-ways-you-sabotage-your-resolutions\/","title":{"rendered":"19 Reasons Why You are Already Failing at Your Resolutions"},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a><\/small><\/p>\n Are you already failing on your resolutions? \u00a0Here’s why:<\/strong> Let\u2019s Bring It Back to You<\/p>\n You can\u2019t change other people, so you have to work on you. <\/b>You are 50% of every conversation, so let\u2019s notice what you\u2019re doing and saying. You are the person who chooses your words, puts the food in your mouth, makes the decision to act \u2013 or not \u2013 so let\u2019s look at the stories you tell yourself or the behaviors you keep repeating that get in your way. 19 Ways You Mess Up Your Own Happiness<\/p>\n So, how many of these behaviors or thinking patterns feel like they show up in your world? <\/b>If you checked off all 19**, Congratulations \u2013 you\u2019re human! Most of us engage in these patterns a little bit in life. You only need to focus on the few that resonated with you. What\u2019s next?<\/p>\n DO NOT create a list of ten things you\u2019re going to change.<\/b> That will overwhelm you. Just pick one or two areas where you want to change a behavior or outcome. Break your commitment into small, digestible chunks. For example, if #18 resonates for you and you commit to \u201cNever say Yes to any request!\u201d you\u2019ll fail quickly. Become Positively Self-ish.<\/b> When you take care of yourself first<\/i>, you build a foundation for stronger relationships with others, increase capacity, and reduce doubt.<\/span><\/p>\n Photo\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0Peter Kaminski<\/a>\u00a0via\u00a0Compfight<\/a><\/small><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you already failing on your resolutions? \u00a0Here’s why: The world often places obstacles on our path to happiness in life and work. But you know what? We often do a lot more to mess up our own happiness. I see this in my coaching clients all the time, and you are probably doing some … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,274,58,50],"tags":[122,30,164,35],"yoast_head":"\n
\nThe world often places obstacles on our path to happiness in life and work.<\/b> But you know what? We often do a lot more to mess up our own happiness. I see this in my coaching clients all the time, and you are probably doing some of these things to yourself.
\nOften the conversation about \u201cwhat\u2019s getting in the way of achieving your goals?\u201d starts with the Blame Game: my boss won\u2019t\u2026, my spouse doesn\u2019t\u2026 , my family is\u2026, and so on.<\/b> Sometimes all that venting about the world being unfair or \u201cthat person\u201d being difficult\/stubborn\/evil offers short-term relief. Anyone who\u2019s been a client of mine for more than five minutes knows that, once the venting is done, I\u2019m going to say, \u201cLet\u2019s bring it back to you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nAnd when you step into self-examination, what you will find is that you are REALLY good at messing up your own happiness. <\/b>I\u2019ve compiled a list of over 100 ways people get in their own way, and offer here some of the most common. As you read, I invite you to keep track of which patterns show up in your own life, and consider what you want to do with those in 2014.<\/p>\n\n
\n**If you checked off zero, you may be in denial (I\u2019m just sayin\u2019\u2026).<\/i><\/p>\n
\nInstead, ask yourself, \u201cwhat is a small step to which I can commit totally?\u201d <\/b>You might say, \u201cI will say No to one request someone makes of me each week.\u201d
\nRemember that happiness is less a destination than a way to proceed on your journey. Changing any <\/i><\/b>of the above behaviors will remove a self-imposed obstacle from your path.
\nDo this for you, not for anyone else. <\/b>Happiness Principle<\/a> #1 reads,<\/p>\n