{"id":3722,"date":"2013-11-07T20:20:45","date_gmt":"2013-11-07T20:20:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=3398"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:42","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:42","slug":"tolerating-the-toilet-from-hell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2013\/11\/tolerating-the-toilet-from-hell\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Tolerating The Toilet From Hell?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Toilet
\n27 years ago we built a large addition to our house, which included a second bathroom for our then-growing family. <\/b>Life was good.
\nThe breakdowns started slowly<\/b>. At first, it was an ever-so gradual sinking of the floor where the add-on connected to the original house. No big deal.
\nThe shower stall leaked. <\/b>Easily fixed with caulking.
\nA couple door frames warped<\/b>. Got used to it.
\nThe vanity dropped a half-inch from the wall.<\/b> Stuck in a few shims.
\nThe toilet started to tilt.<\/b> Still worked, right?
\nEarly this year the toilet tank started to leak<\/b>, and no matter what we did or replaced, we’d hear it refilling frequently. Then began a growing issue with the toilet not quite flushing properly. We shifted into irritated mode.
\nThen we wen<\/b>t on vacation for two weeks in July. <\/b>We returned to a house with a pervasive mildewy smell\u2026 and a $500 water bill.
\nOver the next month we tweaked, attempted repairs\u2026. and the Toilet from Hell (as we began to call it) just kept sinking and leaking and suddenly stopped flushing altogether<\/b> \u2013 just as we welcomed six houseguests for a week. I was ready to explode \u2013 it was me or the toilet!<\/p>\n

$4,000 and a tear-out later we have a newly leveled addition, new bathroom flooring and, for the first time in 20 years, a trouble-free toilet that does not tilt, leak, or fight back in any way. <\/b>Good heavens, how did it come to this? Like so much in life,\u00a0the tiny indignities had accumulated over decades, and it took a meltdown to wake us up to the fact that we were TOLERATING the things that were wrong about our addition.<\/p>\n

Are You Ready to Explode?<\/h2>\n

Your capacity for handling “stuff” in your life is like a balloon<\/b>. Little stressors in your life push a tiny bit of air into your balloon; big stressors are like a huge puff of it. You can handle each stressor individually, yet each one stretches your balloon just a bit more\u2026and more\u2026and more until you feel so stretched and thin that even a poke with a blunt object can cause you to burst.
\nStressors can be tiny,<\/b> like dirty dishes in the sink, a room that needs repainting, or those five pounds you added on your vacation; or they can be huge,<\/b> like Mom losing her memory, dysfunction in a relationship, or unemployment.
\nYou can tolerate a lot, but not all at once. <\/b>Many times there’s not much you can do about the big stuff, yet there’s still a lot you can do to open up some space so you don’t explode.
\nHow do you increase the resilience of a balloon? You let out some air. <\/b>Watch this 3 minute video to learn more about the four actions you can take to eliminate tolerations, reduce the stress in your life, and open more space for Happiness.
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  1. Do: Take action to remove the toleration<\/b>. Have the conversation, change the behavior, remove the item, clean it, replace it, buy it, or whatever is required to remove it from your list.<\/li>\n
  2. Delegate:Turn to someone else to take the action<\/b>, e.g. a child, partner, coworker, or contractor. Automate<\/b> it or create a process to handle it (like setting up online payments).<\/li>\n
  3. Defer:<\/b>\u00a0When you do not have the time, resources, or energy to address the toleration now. <\/b>On your\u00a0calendar, set a time to perform a future action to eliminate the toleration. Then forget about it until it pops back onto your radar.<\/li>\n
  4. Dump: Give yourself permission to no longer consider the issue a toleration. <\/b>Cross it off. Done. Let it go.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When your balloon of stress is nearly filled, you don’t need to address the HUGE problems to feel better<\/b> \u2013 choose a few you can control, get those off your tolerations list, and notice how \u2013 with that newly available capacity \u2013 you’re able to handle the stuff you can’t change with a bit more grace and calm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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