{"id":3734,"date":"2014-07-01T14:19:39","date_gmt":"2014-07-01T14:19:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=3690"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:41","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:41","slug":"stop-start-more-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2014\/07\/stop-start-more-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop. Start. More. Happy."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"stopstartcont\"<\/a>Let’s see a show of hands: how many of you are working on personal change goals?<\/strong> Yep, I thought so. How balanced is your thinking process?<\/p>\n

On the journey from “where you are today” to “where you want to be,” it is just as important to identify what you want to KEEP as what you want to CHANGE.<\/strong> One of my favorite tools to engage people in that conversation is Stop-Start-More (SSM), which works like this:
\nIn service of <this goal\/vision\/aspiration>:<\/strong><\/p>\n

What do I need to STOP doing?
\nWhat do I need to START doing?
\nWhat do I need to do MORE of?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In other words, let’s identify:<\/strong><\/p>\n

    \n
  1. What gets in your way?<\/li>\n
  2. What you need to create, and<\/li>\n
  3. What tools and conversations and processes and skills do you already possess that you can leverage anew to move you to the goal?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    I love the exercise because it gives attention to strengths.<\/strong> The approach acknowledges what is already working and may simply need to be turned up a notch or repurposed.
    \nSSM is a wonderful coaching tool I use to pull people out of what I call the “running away from…” goal framework.<\/strong> You know what I mean: I want to AVOID anger. I want to STOP procrastinating. I want to QUIT being impatient. OK, great; yet those statements identify only what you are running away from. What do you want? What’s the powerful positive to pull you forward? What have you got to work with already?<\/p>\n

    Here’s a quick example:<\/strong><\/p>\n

    I want to live a healthy(ier) life. To support that goal:<\/p>\n