{"id":3734,"date":"2014-07-01T14:19:39","date_gmt":"2014-07-01T14:19:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=3690"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:41","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:41","slug":"stop-start-more-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2014\/07\/stop-start-more-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop. Start. More. Happy."},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a>Let’s see a show of hands: how many of you are working on personal change goals?<\/strong> Yep, I thought so. How balanced is your thinking process?<\/p>\n On the journey from “where you are today” to “where you want to be,” it is just as important to identify what you want to KEEP as what you want to CHANGE.<\/strong> One of my favorite tools to engage people in that conversation is Stop-Start-More (SSM), which works like this: What do I need to STOP doing? In other words, let’s identify:<\/strong><\/p>\n I love the exercise because it gives attention to strengths.<\/strong> The approach acknowledges what is already working and may simply need to be turned up a notch or repurposed. Here’s a quick example:<\/strong><\/p>\n I want to live a healthy(ier) life. To support that goal:<\/p>\n Notice that SSM is not just about one response to each question;<\/strong> it’s about generating ideas for yourself then looking for the strongest themes and using those.<\/p>\n What do you need to STOP doing to be Happier?<\/strong><\/p>\n What do you need to START doing to increase your Happiness?<\/strong><\/p>\n What do you need to do MORE of to increase Happiness?<\/strong><\/p>\n Summary: there are multiple paths to Happier.<\/strong> Some require giving up what’s not serving you, some require new habits, and some give more time\/energy\/attention to something you’re already doing. Which path you choose is less important than THAT you choose. Enjoy your journey.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Let’s see a show of hands: how many of you are working on personal change goals? Yep, I thought so. How balanced is your thinking process? On the journey from “where you are today” to “where you want to be,” it is just as important to identify what you want to KEEP as what you … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34],"tags":[428,429,430],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIn service of <this goal\/vision\/aspiration>:<\/strong><\/p>\n
\nWhat do I need to START doing?
\nWhat do I need to do MORE of?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n
\nSSM is a wonderful coaching tool I use to pull people out of what I call the “running away from…” goal framework.<\/strong> You know what I mean: I want to AVOID anger. I want to STOP procrastinating. I want to QUIT being impatient. OK, great; yet those statements identify only what you are running away from. What do you want? What’s the powerful positive to pull you forward? What have you got to work with already?<\/p>\n\n
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