{"id":4369,"date":"2017-01-20T17:55:26","date_gmt":"2017-01-20T17:55:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=4369"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:39","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:39","slug":"how-to-be-kind-confident-or-happy-right-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2017\/01\/how-to-be-kind-confident-or-happy-right-now\/","title":{"rendered":"HOW TO BE KIND, CONFIDENT, OR HAPPY, RIGHT NOW"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>In January many people create new goals for their work and life,<\/strong> most of which focus on achieving a metric, e.g. starting or stopping, completing or letting go, or making progress in a specific direction. They are about DOING (Or NOT Doing) Something.
\nThere is a place for DOING goals.<\/strong> Life is filled with projects that need to be done once or for a finite time, from taking a course or learning a new skill to growing a company. They are all about progress. Good Doing goals have a target, metrics, and a timeline.
\nBEING goals are different. <\/strong>They are declarations of how you want to exist in the world or the mood or mindset you want to hold\u2026for your whole life.
\nIf Forever seems like a long time, consider the commitment you made to brush your teeth or to shower regularly. Neither of these feels burdensome because they have become habits, and you recognize each time you do them that they support your living a good life.
\nIf you can make dental care a lifetime goal, what about finding space for kindness or courage or happiness?<\/strong><\/p>\n

To Begin, a Three-part Primer on Writing More Powerful Goals<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Primer Part 1: The Six Ps of Powerful Goals<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Write it as an I statement. Own it.<\/li>\n
  2. What do you want<\/em> versus what do you not want<\/em>?<\/li>\n
  3. Declare it in the present tense, as though it is true now. (see Language, next section)<\/em><\/li>\n
  4. When you can declare a goal as an ongoing behavior versus episodic, you will achieve it more quickly because you will do it more often.<\/li>\n
  5. Design goals you can in some way practice\/think\/behave every day, for in repetition you create new neural pathways in your brain.<\/li>\n
  6. Declare your goals aloud to someone and ask for support. If your goal is to share three positive piece of the feedback every day, for example, you might ask a coworker or your coach to check in daily and simply ask \u201chow did you do?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Primer Part 2: Language Matters <\/u><\/strong>
    \nThese Words diminish the power of a goal statement. Avoid them.<\/strong><\/p>\n