{"id":4369,"date":"2017-01-20T17:55:26","date_gmt":"2017-01-20T17:55:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=4369"},"modified":"2018-10-02T13:36:39","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T17:36:39","slug":"how-to-be-kind-confident-or-happy-right-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2017\/01\/how-to-be-kind-confident-or-happy-right-now\/","title":{"rendered":"HOW TO BE KIND, CONFIDENT, OR HAPPY, RIGHT NOW"},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a>In January many people create new goals for their work and life,<\/strong> most of which focus on achieving a metric, e.g. starting or stopping, completing or letting go, or making progress in a specific direction. They are about DOING (Or NOT Doing) Something. Primer Part 1: The Six Ps of Powerful Goals<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n Primer Part 2: Language Matters <\/u><\/strong> Compare: Notice how simple tweaks to language change the meaning of each statement.<\/strong><\/p>\n Primer Part 3: Create Clear Definitions<\/u><\/strong> Apply those three filters to your goals, and you create powerful declarations that feel more compelling. <\/strong>If they are not true yet, your systems\u2014head, heart, body\u2014strive to shift until your thinking, emotions, and actions align. You probably have a full plate already; you don’t need lots of new goals. Honor that in yourself and follow a simple process:<\/p>\n Happy new year, and May this be your best year so far.<\/strong> In January many people create new goals for their work and life, most of which focus on achieving a metric, e.g. starting or stopping, completing or letting go, or making progress in a specific direction. They are about DOING (Or NOT Doing) Something. There is a place for DOING goals. Life is filled with projects … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,13,34,40],"tags":[162,30,439,304],"yoast_head":"\n
\nThere is a place for DOING goals.<\/strong> Life is filled with projects that need to be done once or for a finite time, from taking a course or learning a new skill to growing a company. They are all about progress. Good Doing goals have a target, metrics, and a timeline.
\nBEING goals are different. <\/strong>They are declarations of how you want to exist in the world or the mood or mindset you want to hold\u2026for your whole life.
\nIf Forever seems like a long time, consider the commitment you made to brush your teeth or to shower regularly. Neither of these feels burdensome because they have become habits, and you recognize each time you do them that they support your living a good life.
\nIf you can make dental care a lifetime goal, what about finding space for kindness or courage or happiness?<\/strong><\/p>\nTo Begin, a Three-part Primer on Writing More Powerful Goals<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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\nThese Words diminish the power of a goal statement. Avoid them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
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\nBe clear about your terms.<\/strong> For example, if you say you want to be a better person, what does “better person” mean to you? In what ways might you think or behave differently <\/strong>when you are better? Perhaps, for you, it means paying more attention to others\u2019 needs before your own. Instead of “I will be a better person,” what about “I am thoughtful and considerate,” or “I ask others what they need.” Notice how the present tense positive version of this goal is clearer and more urgent.<\/strong><\/p>\nBack to Being more Kind, Confident, or Happy<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
\nThe following samples come from work I\u2019ve done with clients over the past few years, both in coaching and in workshops.<\/strong> See what inspires you, then proceed to the Do This section for tips on making them real for you.<\/p>\n\n
Do this for yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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\n**(If that sounds like a lot, consider that you have between 12K and 70K thoughts per day, so if you shift just 1\/10 of 1% of those\u2014less than once an hour\u2014you\u2019ll hit that 1,000 in less than three months. Worth it?)<\/em>
\nPhoto credit: Steph Vora, UK<\/a>
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