{"id":4602,"date":"2018-02-21T13:10:18","date_gmt":"2018-02-21T18:10:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=4602"},"modified":"2018-10-02T17:00:33","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T21:00:33","slug":"do-you-ever-say-thats-just-who-i-am","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2018\/02\/do-you-ever-say-thats-just-who-i-am\/","title":{"rendered":"DO YOU EVER SAY, \u201cTHAT\u2019S JUST WHO I AM.\u201d?"},"content":{"rendered":"
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n I recently attended a small, multi-day conference that provided us\u2014speakers, participants, and organizers\u2014 the opportunity to form a community beyond just the scheduled sessions. Our conversations over meals and breaks ranged across diverse topics, from applying our conference learning to work to travel adventures, raising kids, and sharing recipes. Human conversations, you know? What if it is a positive <\/em>dimension of my Shiny Ball Syndrome (SBS) affliction? <\/strong> I constantly move in multiple, simultaneous directions, following shiny balls like article links, new ideas, and random conversational threads. Those habits get in the way when what I want is linear forward progress, so I usually hold a negative judgment of myself as “unable to get stuff done.” So what’s this got to do with you? Plenty!<\/strong> You get feedback every day that you’ve probably been ignoring because the “that’s the way I am” voice in your head blinds you to other possibilities. Remember: Leadership is not about a title. Anyone can be a Leader who engages in self-reflection and awareness, especially to build flexibility in an increasingly crazy busy world!<\/strong><\/span> How To Become An Unstoppable Force for Personal Transformation<\/strong><\/span> ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ I. Do You Ever Say \u201cThat’s Just Who I Am.”? I recently attended a small, multi-day conference that provided us\u2014speakers, participants, and organizers\u2014 the opportunity to form a community beyond just the scheduled sessions. Our conversations over meals and breaks ranged across diverse topics, from applying our conference learning to work to travel adventures, … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,13,34,274,11],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nI. Do You Ever Say \u201cThat’s Just Who I Am.”?<\/span> <\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/h3>\n
\nAt one point, reacting to something I’d just shared with our group, a colleague said to me, “Jim, you are a walking Wikipedia.” <\/strong>While the comment was offered in lightness, something in those words caused me to sit back in reflection. Over the course of the week, I’d had several of other people offer similar feedback, e.g. “you seem to know a lot, about a lot of things.”
\nMy family often mocks me for knowing (sometimes absurdly) obscure or unrelated facts (“How did you know that?!”).<\/strong> But until this new acquaintance shared her assessment so directly, I can honestly say that I’d never thought much about it. “That’s just who I am,” is what I say, or “That’s how my brain works,” and I laugh it off.
\nBut the gift of synchronicity is such that her comment landed on top of my recent learning on Contextual Intelligence (CI)<\/strong> \u2013 defined as: “proficiency at adapting knowledge and skills to different situations and environments,” or “the skill of looking at the world through new\/different lenses when selecting the best action.” <\/em> (You’ll be hearing more from me on CI and Leadership in the future).
\nOne of the core questions of CI is, “what’s another way to look at <this>?”<\/strong> That question, applied to the feedback I’d received, challenged me to question my own story. What if it’s not “That’s the way I am,” but rather, “Who I have practiced becoming?” What if it’s not inherent in me but is an outcome of my habits and behaviors?<\/p>\nShifting My Perspective<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
\nYet SBS also feeds my soul, my curiosity and, in the end, my Way of Being.<\/strong> I am an Ideator. I read broadly and prolifically, and while following wildly divergent paths distracts me and slows me down, ultimately SBS feeds my main drive: coaching and teaching others, serving as a catalyst and connector, feeding ideas to my clients, showing up with whatever they need, because my toolkit is broad and deep and constantly evolving. I drink in my experiences, readings, learnings, and conversations, and they become part of me, available to my work in the world.
\nMy reflections shifted my perspective: <\/strong><\/p>\n\n
Do This For Yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
\nConsider an assessment or judgment you hold about yourself or a habit you keep<\/strong>. Perhaps select one that you typically blow off, like “you’re so direct” or “you’re great at helping us sit back and look at the big picture” or \u201cyou\u2019re too impatient\u201d or “how did you get so good at __X__?”<\/p>\n\n
\n~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\nII. ICYMI (in case you missed it)<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
\n(Follow this link<\/a> to see the Grow Your Business Video I shared last month, including the \u201cbackstage\u201d segment. First up: a three-minute piece on How to Change a Habit. At 3:15 is a back story on how I live what I teach. At 4:50 you\u2019ll learn about my Dark Side, and at 6:25 is a short segment on How to Build a Confident Body. Enjoy!
\nDo You Skimm?<\/strong><\/span>
\nThe Skimm\u2019s<\/a> quirky news summary is one of my daily MUST READs. <\/strong>It\u2019s a quick, easy, and entertaining way to know what’s going on in the world.
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