{"id":6050,"date":"2021-07-24T08:17:50","date_gmt":"2021-07-24T12:17:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/?p=6050"},"modified":"2021-07-24T08:17:55","modified_gmt":"2021-07-24T12:17:55","slug":"three-simple-rules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theexecutivehappinesscoach.com\/2021\/07\/three-simple-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"Three Simple Rules"},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a><\/p>\n A few months ago I posted these \u201cThree Simple Rules In Life\u201d on my wall after I read them in a blog post. At that precise moment I needed a kick in the butt to get moving on a project. The rules felt fresh and brilliant to me.<\/p>\n Shortly after I \u201cfound\u201d them for the first time, I found them again. Then again. Huh? Turns out they\u2019ve been around for some time (see the sample above). I guess The Universe waited till I was ready to hear them before sharing with me <grin>.<\/p>\n Nothing about those three simple rules is ground-breaking.<\/strong> But I had to be in the right context to understand what they meant for me. I\u2019m reminded of the distinction between Knowledge and Wisdom.<\/p>\n Knowledge<\/strong> is about information \u2013 facts and truths and data — gathered from learning and education and reading, while wisdom <\/strong>is a quality of being that comes from lived experiences and sometimes from an application of that knowledge.<\/p>\n “Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge? Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?” \u2014T.S. Eliot.<\/p>\n For example, I KNOW that to get results I must take action. I KNOW that no one can read my mind, that I must speak up about what I want. I KNOW that I have to raise my hand and not wait for the world to take care of me.<\/p>\n But\u2026 BUT\u2026 BUT\u2026 Oh, so many ways I find to stand in my own way.<\/strong><\/p>\n The gremlin voice<\/strong> in my head says, \u201cthey don\u2019t care,\u201d which then saps my energy.<\/p>\n My chronic case of Imposter Syndrome<\/strong> flares up and I get stuck in a doom loop of \u201cI\u2019m not good enough. What if they (whoever \u2018they\u2019 are) discover I\u2019m a fraud?\u201d<\/p>\n Fear and Anxiety, two friends who never completely leave the room,<\/strong> remind me that I could fail\u2026 so why bother?<\/p>\n All these forces conspire to keep me paralyzed. Which is safe, of course, because if I don\u2019t act, how can I possibly make a mistake, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n Aaargh!<\/p>\n I know you\u2019ve been there, too.<\/strong> We all have some version of that gremlin voice. Researchers at the Harvard Business School write about Imposter Syndrome all the time, as it is one of the most common maladies suffered by leaders. It\u2019s being human.<\/p>\n The good news is that 99% of the time those three simple rules can pull us out of that stuck place. Step forward, ask the question, take action.<\/strong><\/p>\n And yes, sometimes we fail, and from that failure we become WISE.<\/strong> Wisdom helps us understand that we can make mistakes and recover, that we can handle the Nos as well as the Yeses, and that if we take three steps forward and get punched back two, we are still one ahead!<\/p>\n I\u2019m currently enrolled in a program to grow my skills in Team Coaching. One of my fellow students shared a mantra that I\u2019ve heard many times, yet never \u201cheard\u201d until I joined this class:<\/p>\n \u201cIf you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n This strikes me as a variation on the ancient corporate acronym, TEAM: Together Everyone Achieves More.\u201d Intellectually I\u2019ve always known this.<\/p>\n As I examine my history and that of my clients, I realize the difference between a GROUP and a TEAM is more than just math\u2013 it\u2019s a complex system of relationships and vulnerability and conversational skills and compassion and shared agreements and shared promises.<\/strong><\/p>\n Teams, especially well-functioning teams, really do achieve more. HOW they do that is the wisdom I am coming into. (stay tuned in future editions)<\/p>\n Another bit that\u2019s come back to me recently is this:<\/p>\n \u201cThe opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n This quote, attributed to Elie Wiesel, the death camp survivor who found beauty in life, is fueling for me a deeper and wiser understanding of how systemic racism** has rooted so deeply in the world. <\/strong>It\u2019s not that the majority population have cruel intent, it\u2019s just that most people are too distracted by other cares and — while they are not paying attention — a minority sets the rules under which people are harmed. It is not the hate of the minority that\u2019s the issue \u2013 it\u2019s the indifference of the majority that allows it to happen.<\/p>\n **This is true all over the world, from the issues of black\/white in the US to the caste system in India, the ghettoization of immigrants in Europe, genocide in so many places (China, Sudan, Myanmar, Brazil), and the abuse of indigenous peoples under colonialism.<\/em><\/p>\n Woof. When I started writing this essay, I did not intend to go so deep. So maybe here is a place to pause and ask you two questions:<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m still exploring what is mine to do. If you want to explore these questions, reach out to a friend, or write me and let\u2019s set up a time to chat.<\/strong><\/p>\n ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Wisdom shows up when you\u2019re ready A few months ago I posted these \u201cThree Simple Rules In Life\u201d on my wall after I read them in a blog post. At that precise moment I needed a kick in the butt to get moving on a project. The rules felt fresh and brilliant to me. If … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5789,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,58,11,23,21,12],"tags":[561,562,560,394,511],"yoast_head":"\nWisdom shows up when you\u2019re ready<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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Do, you must!<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
We are surrounded by wisdom if we listen<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
What is the wisdom in Love?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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Remember, Leadership is not about a title: Anyone can be a leader who recognizes a need in the world and steps up to address it. Leaders act.<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n