Nine Bloody Good Reasons to Give of Yourself

  It was a bitterly cold snowy day when I arrived, and I was one of only four donors at the Red Cross Blood Services center. “I’m so glad you came in today,” said Valerie, the phlebotomist who served me. “This weather has forced cancellation of a lot of blood drives, and we are really in emergency mode.” We laughed and …

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19 Reasons Why You are Already Failing at Your Resolutions

Are you already failing on your resolutions?  Here’s why: The world often places obstacles on our path to happiness in life and work. But you know what? We often do a lot more to mess up our own happiness. I see this in my coaching clients all the time, and you are probably doing some of these things to yourself. …

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Sometimes an Obstacle is a Gift

Cheryl and I celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary this month, and for many years we’ve promised ourselves a Big Trip to celebrate. We were into our second month of planning when a family event got scheduled on top of our travel dates. We were at first irritated that it cut into our vacation time. We decided to embrace the shorter time …

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Get to Know People's Stories

Just as you hold a story about yourself, you hold assessments about others. This is a human thing – to create assessments about others as a shortcut to interaction. Notice that when you are in a leadership role, your assessments matter a great deal more than if you are merely a coworker. The theory of expectations affects the performance of …

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Every Story Can Have a Happy Ending – Even Yours!

The root of human suffering lies in our inability to know the difference between an assessment and an assertion. ~Byron Katie, Loving What Is If you’ve ever taken a personality assessment (like MBTI, DiSC, or a host of others) you know that for all the uniqueness of the 6 Billion people on earth, we all resonate with one of about …

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Play that Happy Music!

One of my mantras is that you — and you alone — are responsible for your own happiness, that it is your decision.  And if no one else can “make” you happy, it stands to reason that you cannot make other people happy either.  Right?   Well, sort of.  Just because you can’t make someone dance doesn’t mean you can’t …

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Leadership Made Simple

When you are in charge (and whether you like it or not) everyone looks to you for a “mood reading” every day. What you bring into work flows down to everyone in your reporting stream. If you’re having a toxic day, that affects your team – the same is true when you’re having a good day. Since the biggest excuse …

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What's In Your Dusty Corners?

My ambition for this post is to share highlights from a year of Learning. So I sat down to review a year of writing and journaling, seeking the Big Wisdom of 2012. Yet that’s not how wisdom emerges. It’s not a lightning strike. It’s more like the accumulation of dust. Tiny particles of learning and experience slowly settle on the …

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In the Workplace: Start Now to Succeed Next Year

For ten years I have issued an annual reminder to leaders regarding performance feedback and relationship-building. The reminder always shows up in December or January.
You know what? That’s too late!

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